A Bigger View Article: The Art of Small Talk

Sissy and etiquette expert, Jodi Smith, explore the significance of small talk and give some great tips on how to really make the most of a conversation. The art of small talk is an imperative skill to have in both the social and professional world. Knowing the proper etiquette for holding a good conversation gives you the ability to make connections, build rapport and even create relationships.

While it may seem that some people are born natural gabbers, good conversationalists know practice is the key to success; which means that with a few basic tips and some added time spent practicing you too can be a pro!

Jodi provides some expert tips to ensuring a good conversation anywhere, any time:

• Be Prepared: Always be prepared to offer a self-introduction. Along with this you should also include some little bits of information about yourself. By doing this, you will keep the conversation flowing and help the other person ask you a question.
• Have a Backup: Do your homework; make sure to have a few fresh topics in your mind, should there happen to be a lull in the conversation.
• Smile: Jodi points out that while it seems obvious, smiling is the key to a successful conversation. Being a good smiler is part of the art of being a good conversationalist.
• Appearance: In addition to carrying on a good conversation, it's important to make sure your attire is suitable for the occasion. Your appearance should reflect the situation. Whether it is a social function or business event, you always want to make sure to look your best. Jodi advises that for a business function, you want to make sure you dress appropriately to project a professional appearance. For such occasions she recommends your best grey or black business suit. For more casual affairs, Jodi suggests watching the trends and attire of those around you, but she also warns to be careful about getting too relaxed. While the work place is becoming more casual, it is important not to let it take away from your professional appearance. By taking cues from co-workers you can be sure to avoid making any real faux pas.
• Finally, do a quick check before leaving the house in order to catch any last minute appearance slip-ups and make sure that you look your best for your next conversation.

We would like to thank Jodi Smith for all of her great tips and guidance. You can learn more by visiting her website: www.mannersmith.com. Her books, From Clueless to Class Act: Manners for the Modern Woman and From Clueless to Class Act: Manners for the Modern Man were excellent resources for our show and the sources for our content.

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Do you have any embarrassing tongue-tied moments you want to share? What about sharing some of those small talk horror stories? It happens to all of us so why not write in and share your experience and tips. Email them to us at abiglife@nbcuni.com. Read more about appliances in Sissy's Tips and our Your Big Life section to find out what other members of our community have contributed to help us all find little ways to create A Big Life.

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